If we were having coffee…

if we were having coffee

If we were having coffee…

I would share with you something that the leader of our church’s mom group said a few months ago. It’s a group where we read books, share our hearts, cry, laugh, and praise Jesus. All while the kiddos run crazy downstairs with some sitters (bless them!).

She said this, “It’s like the struggle for men is lust and for women is comparison.”

For men is lust. And for women is comparison.

Oh, the truth in that statement, my friends. Pure truth. And, oh how silly and foolish I was for not thinking much on it when she said it. Until now. Because it’s summer time, which means swimsuit season. Right, ladies?

I have suddenly become more aware of my body’s imperfections. Stretch marks from carrying, birthing, and breastfeeding, acne scars, oily hair I can never grow long, uneven eyebrows from a scar going through one of them, and weren’t my teeth whiter and arms more tone?

But the most dangerous part is that criticizing those physical assets opens the door for more comparison in other parts of my life and vise versa. Things like, womanhood, motherhood, wifehood, my identity, my impact, my vision. Those thoughts can lead to questions and untrue declarations like, “Wow, I’m a bad spouse. He/she deserves better,” “My friend is such a better mom than I am,” or, “How can God possibly love me? He doesn’t really want me,” and so on and so forth.

I constantly have to remind myself of who I am because of Jesus. It can get so easily lost in the day-to-day distractions, influences, and fluff. Like holding onto a kite on a windy day. But once you know it, it’s more like sipping a cup of tea hearing the wind howl and knowing that you are safe. My favorite way to remember it is pretty simple and I really want to share it with you. You ready? Here it is.

I am a child of God. (John 1:12-13, Ephesians 1:4-6, Galatians 4:4-5, and a crap ton of other places.)

“I am a child of God.” I know it’s weird saying it at first, even in your head. It’s not something we usually do. But we can do it! Let’s say in our heads, ready? “I am a child of God.” Cool! You’ve almost got it mastered! Now, let’s say it out loud. Don’t make it weird. You can even whisper it if you want. Ready? Here we go. “I am a child of God.”

Being a child of God means you are loved, accepted, and pursued just the way you are. Just the way you are. Stretch marks, hot temper, pizza for dinner every night, and all. No need for comparison just like Galatians 6:4-6 tells us. Just straight up unconditional love. And a nifty little handbook in Ephesians 4:17-32 (Thanks Paul!). Now take that little phrase we just used and shout it from the rooftops! Oh, sorry. Too bold? Did I go too far? Baby steps. Okay, maybe just sing it in the shower. Just make sure you don’t wake the kiddos if they’re sleeping! #truestory


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Another Direction


Hey readers!

First off, thanks for keeping up with my small blog. I know the blogging world is saturated and overflowing with people writing their thoughts, beliefs, lives, etc. I appreciate that you lovely people are taking the time to read my small tiny corner of the Internet. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Secondly, I haven’t blogged in a while, huh? I apologize for my tardiness and absence on my little blog here. I have been busy filling my schedule with watching kiddos. And as much as I love kiddos, it has messed with our schedules over here at Kas & tea.

Our days have been all sorts of different. One day I watched kids at 8 – noon, 2 – 4, and then 6 – 9. The next? Watch kids from 1 – 3 and 5 – 8. And I’ve been putting our daughter down anywhere from 8 – 10:30 pm. 10:30 pm you guys! Not exactly a structured environment what I call great scheduling. It’s thrown us for a loop! So again, I apologize. Oh, and I think our daughter is dropping her nap, which makes me SO sad!!! No sweet girl, keep napping for mama! Maybe onto quiet time? 😉

Also, I’m taking my blog in a different direction. I enjoy lifestyle blogging to a certain extent, but I really enjoy snippets of flash fiction and short stories. I like to call it creative writing. I would say I’m definitely more passionate about it than lifestyle blogging. So I will still be doing lifestyle blogging, but I’m going to throw in some creative writing and get on a better schedule. I promise, better schedule, more predictable, not any oh she hasn’t blogged in 2 weeks stuff.

I hope you enjoy my new direction as much as I do! Thanks so much for reading my posts here at Kas & tea. I appreciate you!


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Friday Favorites

This week has been a LONG one for us you guys! My hubby and I haven’t spent time with each other basically all week. This is the last week of school for college students and next week is finals’ week so he’s had projects, tests, studying, presentations, etc. He works so hard for our family you guys! I seriously couldn’t have married a better guy! #lovehim Maybe a date sometime this weekend for us then. 😉


one // A friend of mine has chickens and gave me some of her farm fresh eggs in exchange for homemade bread. Definitely a win-win! I love cooking with farm fresh eggs! Look at that light blue one! So pretty. And Lilly loves her chickens! Every time we go over she gets so excited. “The chickens. Hey chickens! *blows kiss* I kiss the chickens.” It’s adorable!


two // I read this article on how to wear an oversized sweater without looking oversized. Great piece! I know that’s something I struggle with so it was helpful to read her how to article. Plus that red hair! It’s downright gorgeous!

three // OMGoodness! So everyone knows what selfies are, right? But belfies? Oh my gosh you guys! Butt selfies are becoming a thing. Who would have ever thought?! I couldn’t help but laugh while reading the article and thinking, “You can’t be serious!”


four // Today is National Hoagie Day!!! I love sandwiches you guys! Some people love soup, others love salads, some people like pasta. (Though I do love salads too!) Sandwiches are a fave of mine. One of my favorite places to eat (besides Panera of course) is McAlister’s. It makes for a cheap date too. 😉 And even though it’s not exactly a hoagie, I’ll take any excuse to get a sandwich. And then, of course, there’s my toddler eating pizza in the background. Haha!


five // Sorry I missed you guys yesterday, but I was doing some spring cleaning. I went through all of our closets and purged a bunch of stuff. That is one of my favorite things to do. Find stuff that we don’t use and get rid of it! Lilly is outgrowing her 2T clothes so I went through those (I didn’t cry this time!), I had some clothes I never or rarely wear, and I got a few sewing projects done yesterday too. I finally sewed up my husbands jeans and sewed a button back on his shorts. FINALLY. I think they’ve been sitting on my sewing desk for like a month. Lol. #slacker

What are some of your favorites from the week?

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Mother’s Day Gifts

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Flowers are here, spring dresses are everywhere, summer is coming up, and so is Mother’s Day. Here are some practical ideas! And some pretty ones too! 😉


1. // World’s okayest mom mug

2. // Floral scarf

3. // Straw tote (on sale!)

4. // Pride & Prejudice book scarf (love this!)

5. // Gold calligraphy notebook

6. // Concrete cork planter

7. // Ring dish

8. // Patterned panama hat

9. // Yarn bowl

10. // Insulated wine glass (or a pint glass for beer drinkers)

11. // Pineapple corer/slicer/peeler (I need this!!!)

12. // Key & phone finder

13. // Amazon gift card

14. // Target gift card

15. // Bar necklace

16. // Mama Bird tee

17. // Family portrait drawing (so cute!)

18. // Layered necklaces

19. // Kate Spade lemon tumbler

I straight told my hubby to get me this for Mother’s Day. Haha! Gotta love the transparency and honesty in marriage, right you guys? 🙂

What are you getting for Mother’s Day? Any mamas out there getting themselves something? A nap maybe?

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April Showers

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Hooray! It’s May! April showers bring May flowers! We had so much rain the last week of April, which means the flowers are thriving. I love these small white flowers. There’s a whole wall of them nearby our house! Kind of dreamy, don’t you think?


flower wall

Rainy days and flowers remind me of Becoming JanePride & Prejudice, and The Sound of Music, three great movies that I love. Did anyone else grow up watching Julie Andrews sing and raise 7 kids? Okay, so I know that they’re easily available on Netflix, Hulu, Amazon, etc. for streaming but I like having the DVDs because internet doesn’t always work. WHAT?! I know, almost impossible, but it DOES happen. Haha! And what do we do when it’s cold, rainy, and the internet is down? (Or just cold and rainy really.) Movies, popcorn, bake. You know, the usual. Oh, also make potato soup for dinner and drink tea all day.


But before we do movies, tea, and soup, we usually go splash outside. And you can’t splash outside with rain boots. I mean, you can buuuuuut it makes for wet socks, cold feet, and dirty pants. 😉 So I got these short rainboots (size down if you’re an in between size) and love them. They have so many different colors, styles, heights, etc. for everyone. Roma is such a cool company. They’re a buy one give one company – you buy one and they give one to one to a child in need. YES! I wish every company was a buy one give one. It’s one of my favorite things that companies do.


And this awesome saying inside the boot? Awesome. Giving poverty the boot. It gave me a few chuckles. 🙂



And of course Lilly has some cute little rainboots of her own. She loves splashing in puddles outside! It’s pretty funny because we just go to the streets near our house and splash in puddles. Just making memories with my toddler – don’t mind us jumping in the street! 😉 She smiles so big, giggles, and says, “I splash in puddles Mama!” That little excited voice. That girl has my heart.

What do you do on rainy days?

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The Weekend!

Happy Monday!

This weekend we visited some family friends of my parents. Such good people! Her husband is in the hospital and cannot speak but responds with body movement. I really enjoyed our visit with them. Such a strong woman in the Lord! It was encouraging to hear her reliance and trust in Him. Her attitude and hope is simply amazing. So much faith! It made me think of my own marriage and the “in sickness and in health” vow we have made to each other. So much unconditional love that could not be with the grace of God. Seriously, #goals.


It has been so rainy here lately, which means so much splashing outside. 😉 The sound of rain against our windows is one of my favorite things about the spring. Sometimes we open our balcony door and the sound is amplified. I think we might even try to go mushroom hunting sometime. When I was a kid, we used to go out with my parents and pick morel mushrooms. The best time to go is after a lot of rain. While most wild mushrooms are poisonous, morel mushrooms are not and are very delicious when breaded and fried.


And the rain means we make yummy food like this coconut oil fudge. So delicious! And it’s actually healthy – the best part! I love chocolate. Sometimes I can get away with eating kettle corn when I’m having a chocolate craving, but nothing else satisfies it other than chocolate. Will definitely be making that fudge recipe again. And again. And maybe again. 🙂

Sunday night means women’s group which I love! We’re doing a Beth Moore study (gotta love Beth!) and we talked about friendships. So good! Some issues she hit on: are we labeling our friendships properly (friends VS acquaintances)? What is a friend? What does sharing your heart look like? Definitely spoke to me.

How was your weekend?

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14 Favorite Baby Books

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Everyone’s having babies you guys! Like everyone. I know a sweet lady who just had a little boy and 3 ladies who are pregnant right now. Actually 4 I think. Or maybe it’s 5. Anyway, ALL the babies! I love working in the nursery at church with the little babies. Even though it was not my favorite stage, it’s so sweet to look back at photos of little newborn Lilly who just wanted to sleep on my chest.

One thing I DID love about that baby stage though? Books. I loved reading to her and still do. We love Dr. Seuss books, but there are some others that we loved in our house or that our friends have that we love. Um…Brown Bear, Brown Bear What Do You See? for any of my 90’s kid peers?! Plus there’s a line of classic literature baby books that I’m totally swooning over. Swooning you guys. I don’t use that word very often so you know it’s serious. 🙂

baby books

1.) My Mother Gave Me The Moon // 2.) Little Owl’s Night // 3.) Counting Kisses // 4.) Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? // 5.) Chicka Chicka Boom Boom // 6.) I Love You Through And Through // 7.) There’s a Wocket in My Pocket! // 8.) The Very Hungry Caterpillar // 9.) Anne of Green Gables // 10.)Pride & Prejudice // 11.) Sherlock Holmes in the Hound of the Baskervilles // 12.) Alice in Wonderland // 13.) Sense & Sensibility // 14.) Little Women

Books make the perfect bridal shower gift! Along with plenty of diapers, wipes, coffee, pacifiers, freezer meals, free babysitting, and free let-me-come-over-and-clean-your-house! 😉 But seriously.

What are your favorite baby books?

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